Carol and Malcom have identified the key areas of potential marital conflict and articulated a series of questions which will help any couple considering marriage uncover their differences and establish a positive atmosphere in which the couple can succeed.

One of the glossed over phrases in the traditional marriage ceremony is "marriage is not to be entered into lightly, but thoughtfully." The frequency with which couples break their marriage vows shows clearly that the joy and delight of falling in love and planning a wedding pushed aside the need of discovering each other just as seriously.

In today's self help and how to society, this delightful book will guide the couple through the discovery process.

For those of us already married, it is also a way to keep discovering each other through the various stages of marriage and individual growth. My wife and I plan to go through the questions together on a regular basis.

I also appreciated the caution of the authours in that just taking a quiz does not guarantee marital success. The last line of the conclusion sums it up best: "May the work you put into your marriage lead to a lifetime of love." Just taking a quiz does not guarantee marital success. It will, however, help you discover the "make or break issues" which must be resolved prior to marriage.

Thank you, Carol and Malcom, for giving us a tool to help preserve one of the most valuable entities of any society, strong and healthy marriages.

Mark D. Middleton
President, GlobalTalk

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Great for married couples too!  May 08, 2003 By Sandra Brereton
After being married for nine years, I thought I knew everything about my husband. However, after reading this book and taking the quiz myself I found out things about my husband that were very enlightening. The discussion surrounding some of these issues helped us grow closer and we now have a deeper and renewed understanding of one another. It's a great book for us married couples too!

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Great way to start important discussions  Mar 22, 2006 By Kate K
My husband and I used this last year in the six-month period before we married. We are both open people, and still were amazed at the depths of our discussions that resulted from these quizzes. We would never have thought to talk about so many of these things-many of them "little," but significant nonetheless.

One little example that we always joke about: I found that he thinks the driveway should shoveled only when it becomes hazardous, I expect that it should be shoveled after the first tiny bit of snow (I was raised this way!). If we hadn't talked about it, when this winter rolled around, I would have just assumed he was lazy or something, instead of realizing that frequent shovelling is not a value he was brought up with!

Also, we were in a long-distance relationship for most of our engagement, and we really enjoyed doing these then calling each other and reviewing our results!

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Great communication tool!  May 27, 2003 By Laura McArthur
This is a clear, easy to manage tool for getting communication going about issues that arise in a marriage. Many times at the beginning of a relationship, we unknowingly assume many outcomes to important matters and therefore don't discuss them. After 22 years of marriage, I can say that being aware of similarities and differences and discussing how to handle these differences will help maintain open, honest communication. This quiz is an effective, non-threatening way to begin a healthy marital relationship. Thank you for providing a resource to help us remember the importance of communication as well as providing a way to accomplish this.


Fun and interesting  Feb 05, 2010 By Kass
I purchased this for me and my fiance and we've enjoyed going through it together. Some of the questions seem so simple and you think you know what your partner is going to say, but when you start talking about it you realize you were way off. Great if you're not able to see each other all the time to write out "your life plan" like some other books we have looked at. We are apart due to school at the moment, and this is something that was easy for us to talk about over the phone.

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